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Home Buyer Etiquette

 

"Marilyn helped us purchase our first home and we couldn't have been happier with her patience, wisdom, and guidance. We found Marilyn to be extremely knowledgeable of the local market and she kept the process stress free by answering calls, texts, and e-mails at all hours. We were thrilled with Marilyn and highly recommend her to all prospective hime buyers without reservation." Conor S.

Buying a home is an emotional experience that can bring out the best and sometimes the worst in people. Even people who are generally considerate sometimes forget how to behave when they are looking for a house. After-all it’s not something people do every day, it’s a big purchase and it’s at least a little scary for most people. When there’s more than one person involved they may not agree, the kids are cranky from driving around, and everyone is concerned about making the right decision. All of these stress factors can cause people to act in ways they never would otherwise.

Here are some common-sense things to keep in mind to help you through the process:

1. When you contact a real estate agent or call an office  be prepared to give some basic information – name, address, phone number, and whether or not you are pre-approved for a mortgage.  

2. If you are not pre-approved for a mortgage, don’t be offended if an agent won’t show you a house. Instead, ask who you can contact to get pre-approved. It’s a waste of everyone’s time and agents have a responsibility to show homes only to qualified buyers. If you’re not ready to get pre-approved, then you’re not ready to look at houses!

3. If you go to an open house be prepared to sign-in and give correct information. If you are under contract with a buyer agent make sure you write that on the sign-in sheet. If you don’t want the agent at house to contact you just write please do not contact next to your information. Refusing to sign-in is rude and sets a tone of distrust – what if you really like the house? You’ve already gotten off on the wrong foot. Giving false information is never OK. Remember, you’re in someone’s home!

4. Houses are shown by appointment, so plan ahead. If someone is living there, they need some notice to pick up and get out – very few people can keep their house ready for visitors with a moment’s notice – can you? Even new construction is shown by appointment – there might be workers at the house, etc.

5. Real estate agents and home sellers have schedules. It is not realistic to call an agent or an office from in front of a house and expect an agent come right out to meet you. Imagine calling your accountant, hair-dresser, plumber, mechanic, financial planner, or anyone else and expecting on the spot service!

6. Set up a meeting with an agent so you can talk about your needs and get to know each other. Buying a home is a big investment and can take several months – don’t you owe it to yourself to invest an hour upfront?

7. Buying a home involves the whole family, so it’s OK to bring the kids (although, you will certainly be able to focus better without them…) If you bring them, make sure they understand that they are visiting someone’s home. Keep them by your side at all times, especially in new construction where things are unfinished and may be dangerous. It’s for their safety and for the safety of the home-owners possessions – wouldn’t you feel awful if they broke something? And please don’t let them play with the home-owners’ kids toys – they wouldn’t want anyone playing with their things

8. Treat the house with respect. Of course you need to look in closets and cabinets, etc. but dresser drawers, medicine cabinets, personal belongings are off limits. Never sit on someone’s bed or use the master bath – sellers know they give up some privacy when their homes are on the market but again, put yourself in their shoes!

9. Relationships are about trust and mutual respect - loyalty matters. If you are under contract with a real estate agent, always contact that agent when you need information. People can get really impatient sometimes or they don’t want to “bother” their agent so they start calling offices  or listing agents demanding information or pretending that they are going to be clients.

Call your agent – he/she will call you back. If your agent doesn’t return calls and give you the information you need then find another agent. If you can’t stop yourself from calling an office or listing agent directly, make sure that you disclose that you are working with an agent right away and that you would appreciate some information.

10. Golden Rule/Common Sense – as with everything else, if you treat people (real estate agents) and property the way you want to be treated, the home-buying process will be efficient and the transaction will be a lot easier. If you’re not sure what the protocol is, just ask – we’re here to help!



Marilyn Messenger, a Certified Residential Specialist and an Accredited Buyer Representative (ABR®) and associated with Andrew Mitchell & Company, has been representing buyers and sellers in Sudbury, Maynard, Wayland, Stow, Acton, and west of Boston MA since 1993. Marilyn is a top recommended broker on Trulia.

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Marilyn Messenger, REALTOR
CRS®, ABR®, GRI®,CLHMS, Broker
Direct: 508-596-3501
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Marilyn sold our townhouse in one day. We had four offers and several overing asking. We were able to do this with Marilyn's thorough and thoughtful consultation and guidance. She knew exactly what would sell our home. We met initially in early Fall and prepared a plan to be the first on the market in the Spring. Marilyn stayed in constant communication and pinged us when we needed to take action. She made the selling process as painless as possible with maximum results. We were also able to buy our next home through Marilyn. We turned in our keys for our townhome and got the keys to our new home the very next day. Coordination was flawless. Overall, Marilyn has a keen eye, superior attention to details, a great sense of the market, and excellent communication skills. We would definitely recommend her as an agent. Beverly T.
We were so pleased to have worked with Marilyn for a second time! Marilyn helped us to buy our first home in Sudbury 10 years ago and when we were ready to sell it, we called her again. The process of buying and selling can be overwhelming, but Marilyn helped us to sort through it all. She is a master at organization and coordination of the many parties involved in this process. She was on top of all of the details so that nothing fell through the cracks. There were multiple offers on the house we ended up buying and on our house when we sold it, and Marilyn was invaluable in helping us to navigate through those negotiations. Following her advice, we had an accepted offer on our house in just 3 days! We would definitely recommend Marilyn! J. Jackson
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